This might be a little bit of a topical blog, but I often write about really serious stuff, and here I just want to tell you about the five sexual products I can’t live without. Let’s just have some fun and I’ll tell you why I like them.
- Uberlube
I think Uberlube is one of the most superior products on the market. It is a silicone based lubricant and it is amazing. A little goes a long way and it never gets sticky like water based lubricant. It makes everything slippery and super delightful- from sexual lubrication to just rubbing it all over your body and everywhere in between. A few notes 1) silicone lubricant is not compatible with latex condoms so don’t use it if you are using a latex condom, 2) silicone lubricant can break down certain materials that various sex products/toys are made of, so make sure your material is compatible with silicone lubricant: ok- hard materials, like hard plastic, aluminum, ceramic, steel, granite, wood, marble, etc., not ok- soft materials like silicone, latex, etc.), and 3) silicone lubricants can sometimes stain certain fabrics so try out a spot and/or use with caution (or just through caution to the wind and go wild!)
Click here for more information from the manufacturer about Uberlube - Hitachi Wand
In May 2016, time.com declared the Hitachi Wand one of the “50 Most Influential Gadgets of All Time”, theonly sex related gadget on the list (read more here). This thing is the “Rolls Royce” of vibrators and kind of industry standard for external vibration. This also feels great on all parts of the body, and plugs directly into the wall, so no batteries or charging necessary. Another factor that is great about the Hitachi Wand being powered by electricity and not a battery is that there is little to no variation in vibration due to battery dying or lack of charge. This consistency is really important for having consistent and reliable pleasure, which is so important for the folks I see in my practice who have some concerns about consistency and reliability with pleasure and orgasm. This item is so awesome that it is recommended to purchase from an authorized retailer because there are “counterfeit” wands out there. Wow. So great you have to counterfeit it like a luxury handbag on Canal St. in NYC. Now that is a product I can’t live without.
- Blindfold
One of my most favorite tools in the bedroom is a blindfold. This versatile little tool can be used by any
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partners and can be as simple as a silk scarf or handkerchief or as sophisticated as real blindfold designed for sexual activities (I like these better, as they stay on and actually do what they are supposed to do). Why I like blindfolds? For a bunch of reasons…one of the main reasons is sensory limitation. Of our five senses (taste, smell, sight, touch, and sound), I think our visual sense is one of the MOST overused senses, especially in sex. Taking that sense away can help ascentuate the other senses. Taking away the visual sense also can often reduce anxiety in the bedroom and help to foster an environment where there can be an increased level of excitement, surrender, and intimacy. For some folks, eye contact is essential in sexual experiences, but for others, it can be distracting or intimidating. The blindfold gives the latter folks permission to focus on the feelings and their senses, instead of eye contact. Plus, blindfolds are fun.
- Essential Oils and Diffuser
Speaking of senses- our olfactory sense I think is one of our most under utilized senses in sexual activity. I love a diffuser and some sensual essential oils. All pleasing oils are beneficial, but there is some research that says that certain essential oils have aphrodisiac effects. You can do a little more research on this, but in my experience, I like rose, jasmine, lavender, clary sage, cinnamon, geranium, and vanilla. And many diffusers have soothing lights on them which can create a beautiful mood and tantalize the visual senses as well. A great (and safe way) to set the mood. - High End Lingerie and Sexy Undergarmets
Some people don’t agree with me, but I love high end, classy lingerie and sexy undergarmets to encouragefeeling sexy and desire. I believe sexiness and feeling sexy is something that comes from within, and if we aren’t wearing things that make us feel sexy and desirous/desired, then how do we expect us to just turn on the sexy/desire light switch when we take off our clothes. What a delightful secret it is to be wearing sexy undergarmets, that the barrier between you and the world is maybe your ho-hum business casual attire, BUT underneath, only a sliver of fabric separates a sexual vixen from the rest of the world. Now, not all people feel sexy in lingerie and sexy undergarmets. Maybe NOT wearing undergarmets is sexier. The largest sex organ we have is our SKIN- lets tantalize our skin by wearing things that feel incredible and delicious next to our skin. And this isn’t just for women, I encourage all genders to find things to wear close to their skin that make them feel sexy and desire. But wearing things that don’t make you feel sexy…that doesn’t help sexiness and desire.
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